Have you ever had thoughts on whether or not you want to pursue a relationship with a woman everytime you see her? Do you have this needy-like feeling whenever you are amazed by her beauty and personality but it turns out that she's already taken? I had that kind of feeling myself, and the more I encounter women who I will assume whenever I see her as already being taken, I kinda gave up on it. That's fine if you cannot get a woman in your life, because it gives you the motive to form a method of resistance towards the temptation to enter a relationship.
I have gone to parties in nightclubs where I have fun dancing and chatting with people, and while I do admit that those aren't the best places to talk to women, I have managed to use those experience to gain confidence needed to stay single. All the single men out there who are viewed by women as simply "out of their league" need not to feel discouraged. Use your "below standards" brand to your advantage by pursuing the things that you love to do. Even as I continue to learn more about the MGTOW culture, staying single does have benefits:
- Aside from the obviously mentioned freedom to pursue your own hobbies, you also avoid the drama that dominates all romantic relationships. You avoid the pitfalls of getting into arguments with your girlfriend because of one minor problem.
- Further isolation for those who don't have the necessary skills to interact with people has resulted in less confidence, but loners do tend to become secretive about their lives. I have this tendency too, and it succeeded in keeping some of my work and social lives separate.
- Avoiding the pitfalls of married life also prevents you from falling into the dreaded possibility of divorce and custody battles that would have ensured that the custody of one's children would fall on the mother instead of the father.
So let's take an example of a guy who is described by his peers as "nerdy looking": that aforementioned 'nerd' tries his luck at chatting up with women, and they immediately get turned off because of his appearance. They would often dismiss themselves as someone that is "out of his league" and hooks up with more successful, non-nerdy looking men. The subject in question becomes less confident of his ability to talk to women and as a result he isolates himself from society and becomes a hermit. If the subject in question approaches me for an advice on how to be a better communicator towards women, here are the things that I'd tell him:
1) Confidence is the key. Get to know the girl you want to talk to, and pick up a topic that she is most likely to be interested in, even if you don't have any knowledge on the topic she likes.
2) Observe how guys talk to women. Do NOT talk to the guys who just finished a conversation with their lady friends or they'll see you as some competition that isn't worth it.
3) If you are frustrated by your stereotypical outlook, embrace it. Use your stereotype to your advantage and do whatever you want to do with your life.
Also, if you really feel adventurous enough to try and forget about entering a relationship with a woman, you can always join your country's military. A life in the military will certainly keep you occupied and your confidence will grow so much that you would forget about having a comfortable civilian life and dedicate yourself to your career. This is another option for those who have the guts, but not everyone is fit for military life. The option that fits every single guy out there though, is to devote yourself to your career and your own personal, girlfriend-free life. If someone asks you if you're gay when you say that you don't have a girlfriend, politely say no and say that you're busy with your career and that you don't have time to look for a girlfriend. That works too.
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